SubhanAllah, sometimes you just need a perspective. A Real One, that can compel you to confront the real world out there. We’re often deluded by the shallowness of this Dunya. It dictates us norms that inflict our inside. We often forget that the only Real need man ever had is to acquire love of their Lord. All else melts away with time and age. This is One Perspective that stays there intact. But sadly, this is one perspective which has been suppressed the most. When we want to get married, we expect as if it will solve all our problems, as if it’s the end of the world, or some might consider it as a way of escaping all their miseries. The truth is, it’s none of them!
A soul mate makes you connect to your Lord in more than one ways! They’re there to strengthen your knot with the One, Who has not moved one bit. But the only one who has moved were – you. They break you apart to let your inner filled with what it really deserves – love of God.
The following words of immense wisdom were shared by Ustadha Yasmin Mogahed. The words originally are of an author named Elizabeth Gilbert. These words stirred me inside out. And compelled me to see the beautiful knot of marriage through the lens of the Real Perspective.
“People think a soul mate is your perfect fit, and that’s what everyone wants. But a true soul mate is a mirror, the person who shows you everything that is holding you back, the person who brings you to your own attention so you can change your life. A true soul mate is probably the most important person you’ll ever meet, because they tear down your walls and smack you awake. But to live with a soul mate forever? Nah. Too painful. Soul mates, they come into your life just to reveal another layer of yourself to you, and then leave. A soul mates purpose is to shake you up, tear apart your ego a little bit, show you your obstacles and addictions, break your heart open so new light can get in, make you so desperate and out of control that you have to transform your life, then introduce you to your spiritual master…” ― Elizabeth Gilbert, Eat, Pray, Love
Subhan’Allah! God makes you meet your soul mate and your soul mate makes you meet your Lord. This assures that the source and destination remains the same – God. A soul mate is just a means of reaching out to your Lord. Allahu akbar!